Forum Sitemap. I would rather have no sex drive than feel like some sort of pervert. If it were only a thought, or action, or feeling, then there are plenty of self-help books and mental health professionals who are available to help you shift your behaviors, thoughts, and emotions with varying degrees of success of course. It might not be easy, and it will probably involve compromise, but everyday people create sexual lives and communities that resist the dominant idea of what sex should be. It hurts a lot on the inside. You need to sleep, and you can control when that takes place.
Specific Symptoms of Fetishism
A reader wrote to me to ask if I thought it was possible to get rid of a fetish. They described their particular fetish and shared that they felt that it was ruining their life. They had lost romantic partners over the fetish, they found it difficult to have the sex they wanted, they were coming to feel as if their life would be better without this thing they called a fetish. I didn't have an easy answer for them, but we began the email exchange with me pointing out that there are two things we needed to clarify before we could get to something resembling an answer. First, we'd need to agree on what we think a fetish is.
Causes of Fetishism
Fetishism is, at its most basic definition, a unique sexual preference or urge that leads to strong fantasies or for the person to seek out gratification. These urges are usually very specific and may become entirely necessary for the person to reach a level of sexual gratification. This disorder is rarely professionally diagnosed , as fetishes may embarrass the individual and are rarely dangerous, though some, such as asphyxiation, can end in deadly mishaps. A fetish is an uncommon sexual obsession that an individual may have with a specific object or part of the body. Fetishes are very personal urges that many are not inclined to share. Most do not seek out treatment, but that does not mean that those who wish to relieve themselves of their fetish are out of luck.